Shadow Dancing Book - Embracing and Accepting the Self

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Shadow Dancing

Accepting and Embracing the Self

elcome to Energencia Online and your journey of personal transformation and

spiritual development.

This single self-study module is designed to take around 180 minutes, with a further

180 minutes for the practical meditation and exercises. You will need a journal,

coloured pencils and an open heart and mind.

It is recommended that you do not complete this single module eBook in one sitting as you will need

some time to process the information shared; and embrace all that you are. It may also be necessary

to repeat or to spend more or less time on certain exercises as we all develop uniquely and assimilate

information differently; and the outcome and learning from the, eBook will be unique to each individual

person

SURRENDER to who you are and ACCEPT all that is. Know YOU are enough, whole and

complete just as YOU are.

Brightest Blessings

Shadow Dancing is included in our campus - based training course Personal Alchemy a Journey of

Personal Transformation,available in both Durban and Johannesburg. More details on our campusbased training is outlined at the end of this eBook.

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Shadow DancingAccepting and Embracing the Self

A shadow is an area where direct light from a light source cannot reach due to obstruction by an

object. It occupies all of the space behind an opaque object with light in front of it. The cross section

of a shadow is a two-dimensional silhouette or reverse projection of the object blocking the light. ~

Wikipedia

Introduction

Most of us set out on the path to personal growth because at some point the burden of our painbecomes too much to bear. Shadow dancing is about unmasking that aspect of ourselves whichdestroys our relationships, kills our spirit, and keeps us from fulfilling our dreams. It is what thepsychologist Carl Jung called the shadow. It contains all the parts of ourselves that we have tried tohide or deny. It contains those dark aspects that we believe are not acceptable to our family, friends,and most importantly, ourselves. The dark side is stuffed deeply within our consciousness, hiddenfrom ourselves and others. The message we get from this hidden place is simple: there is somethingwrong with me. Im not okay. Im not lovable. Im not deserving. Im not worthy.

Simply put, we all have a dark side, and if deny our dark side, it will cast a shadow that willnegatively impact our lives. In learning how to confront these shadows, you can achieve harmonyand let your own light shine through by owning every aspect of yourself. Owning means toacknowledge that a quality belongs to us.

The purpose of doing shadow work is to become whole. To end our suffering and to stophiding ourselves from ourselves. Once we do this we can stop hiding ourselves from the restof the world.

By facing these aspects of ourselves, we become free to experience our glorious totality: thegood and the bad, the dark and the light. It is by embracing all of who we are that we earn thefreedom to choose what we do in this world. As long as we keep hiding, masquerading, andprojecting what is inside us, we have no freedom to be and no freedom to choose.

Quote from: The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford


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Meeting and Embracing Your Shadow

It is only when we have the courage to face things exactly as they are, without any self-

deception or illusion, that a light will develop out of events, by which the path to success may

be recognised.

I Ching, the Book of Changes

Active Meditation and Exercises

For this meditation and the practical exercises you will need: Coloured pencils, pen and a dedicated

journal

Explore your Inner Sacred Space

When you ready, close your eyes and take five slow, deep breaths. Inhale for five counts, retain the

breath for five counts, and then exhale slowly through your mouth. Use your breath to relax your

entire body. Focus all your attention on your breath as you continue. This is one of the best ways to

quiet your mind.

Now with your eyes shut, imagine yourself walking into an elevator and closing the door. Press one of

the buttons in the elevator and go down seven floors. Imagine youre going down deep into your

consciousness. When the door opens you see a beautiful sacred garden. Try to clearly visualise

everything about it. Notice the trees, the flowers, the birds. What colour is the sky? Is it a brilliant,

clear blue or is it laced with clouds? Feel the airs temperature and the wind caressing your cheeks.

How are you dressed? Are you wearing something you love? Imagine yourself at your best, looking

you most attractive. Take off your shoes and feel the earth beneath your feet. Is it grassy or sandy? Is

it dry or moist? Do you see a pathway of stone or marble? Are there waterfalls or statues? Are there

any animals? Take a minute to look around in all directions and notice what else is in your garden.

When youve finished crating your garden, crease a sacred meditation seat where you can come to

find all the answers youve ever desired. Spend a minute exploring your inner sacred place and make

a commitment to visit if often. Return your attention to your breath and take five more, slow, deep

breaths. Bring yourself to an even deeper state of relaxed awareness.

Now ask yourself the following series of questions below and take your time in listening to your inner

voice. After each question open your eyes for a moment and write down your answers in your journal.

The best way to do this is to write fast and to write whatever comes to your mind. There are no right

or wrong answers. Dont worry about what you are writing; just let yourself feel and express whatever

needs to emerge through this process. When you have the answer to the first question, close your

eyes, return to your garden, and sit down in your meditation seat. Take two slower, deep breaths

before you ask yourself the second question and so on. Take your time.


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Now answer the following questions in your journal, take your time and take four deep breathsbetween each question.

You can go back to your sacred space at any time. Express any else in your journal that needs to be expressed

1. What am I most afraid of?2. What aspects of my life need transforming?

3. What do I want to accomplish by completing this module?

4. What do I want to accomplish by completing this course

5. What am I most afraid of that someone else will find out about me?

6. What am I most afraid of finding out about myself?

7. What is the biggest lie I have told myself?

8. What is the biggest lie I have told someone else?

9. What could stop me from doing the necessary to transform my life

Shadow Dancing

In the end the Shadow was only a small passing thing: there was light and high beauty forever

beyond its reach. ~ Tolkien

Our wounded self is our dark or shadow side, not because it is bad but because it is cut off from the

light of God. It lives in the darkness of fear and the heaviness of false beliefs instead of in the light of

love and truth. Moving toward "enlightenment" is moving into the light of truth. When we heal our fears

and false beliefs, our energy lightens. We may even hear from others, "You seem so much lighter!

Doorways to Darkness

Just as the light of God enters our hearts when we choose to open to love, the darkness enters when

we choose to close our hearts and act from anger, fear, shame, judgment or hurt.

Our anger, fear, shame, judgment and hurt are the cracks in our energy field through which the

darkness enters. The darkness can also enter when we cloud our energy with drugs, alcohol, nicotine

or sugar.

Exercise 1

Choose 10 20 Positive Adjectives that best Describe You

Exercise 2

Choose 10- 20 Negative Adjectives that best Describe You

Write down the Negative Adjectives on your list and answer the questions in Exercise 3


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Exercise 1 - Choose 10 to 20 Positive Adjectives that best describe you

Positive Personality Adjectives

adaptableadorableagreeable

alertalluring

ambitiousamused

boundlessbravebrightcalm

capablecharmingcheerfulcoherent

comfortableconfident

cooperativecourageous

crediblecultureddashingdazzlingdebonairdecisive

decorousdelightful

detaileddetermineddiligentdiscreetdynamic

eagerefficientelated

eminentenchanting

encouragingendurableenergetic

entertainingenthusiasticexcellentexcited

exclusive

exuberantfabulous

fairfaithful

fantasticfearless

finefrank

friendlyfunny

generousgentle

gloriousgoodhappy

harmonioushelpful

hilarioushonourable

impartialindustriousinstinctive

jollyjoyous

kindkind-hearted

knowledgeable

levellikeablelivelylovelylovinglucky

maturemodern

niceobedient

painstakingpeacefulperfect

placidplausiblepleasant

plucky

productiveprotective

proudpunctual

quietreceptivereflectiverelievedresolute

responsiblerhetoricalrighteousromanticsedateseemly

selectiveself-assured

sensitiveshrewd

sillysincereskilful

smilingsplendidsteadfast

stimulatingsuccessful

succincttalentedthoughtful

thriftytough

trustworthyunbiasedunusualupbeat

vigorousvivacious

warmwilling

wisewittywonderful

zanyzealous


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Exercise 2 - Choose 10 to 20 Negative Adjectives that best describe you

Negative Personality Adjectivesabrasiveabrupt

abusiveafraidaloof

ambiguousangry

annoyedanxiousarrogantashamed

awful

badbelligerentbewildered

boorishboredboringcallous

carelessclumsy

combativeconfusedcowardly

crazy

creepycruel

cynicaldangerousdeceitfuldefeateddefectivedefiant

demonicdepressedderanged

disagreeabledisillusioned

disturbeddomineering

draconianembarrassed

enviouserraticevasive

evilfaded

fanatical

fiercefilthy

finickyflashy

flippantfoolish

forgetfulfranticfretful

frightenedfurtivegreedy

grievinggrouchy

gruesomegrumpyguardedgulliblehelplesshesitant

homelesshorriblehungry

hurtignorant

illirresolutejealousjitterylacking

lazylonely

maliciousmaterialistic

meanmysterious

naivenasty

naughtynervous

noisyobnoxiousoutrageous

panickypathetic

possessivequarrelsome

repulsive

ruthlesssad

scarysecretive

selfishsillyslow

sneakysnobbish

sorespendthriftsqueamish

stingystrangesulkytackytense

terribletesty

thick-skinnedthoughtlessthreatening

tighttimidtired

tiresometroubledtruculent

typicalundesirableunsuitable

unsureupset

uptightvague

vengefulvenomous

volatile

voraciousvulgarwary

wastefulweakwearywickedworried

worthlesswretched


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To continue .....

Becoming immune to darkness means never acting out of the wounded self's feelings of fear, anger,

shame, judgment or hurt but always moving into intent to learn about these feelings. Through

purifying ourselves on the physical and emotional levels by eating well and doing our healing work onour journey of self transformation, through our inner alchemy as we become SOLID GOLD , we can

hear our spiritual guidance and connect with our sacred self. Being in conscious connection (and

dialogue) with both our sacred self and inner Child (shadow self) is one of the goals of Shadow

Dancing. We begin to heal the cracks through which the darkness enters, and we shine the light of

truth into the wounded self's fears and false beliefs, our Dragons.

When we feel hurt, angry, judgmental, shamed, blaming, depressed or frightened, our dialogues are

with the wounded aspect of our Inner Child. These painful feelings come from our own unloving

behaviour toward ourselves. However, when you have been operating most of the time from thewounded aspect of your inner child, you cannot suddenly become a loving Adult in order to do the

dialogue process. We cannot bring light to darkness with darkness. In other words, we can't heal our

darkness by being furious at it. We can transform darkness into light only by learning about and loving

the darkness. We heal darkness only with light the light of love.

Our challenge is to love the part of us that we judge as bad, unlovable or unworthy, and it's a

challenge that calls for the loving Adult.


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Exercise 3

Write down the Negative Adjectives on your list, in your journal, and answer

the questions as a loving adult.

Now gently close your eyes and contemplate the first negative adjective on your list, ask yourself

these questions and hear the answer from deep within.

1. Is this my own belief about myself or did I adopt it due to the words and actions of others

2. Why do I believe this of myself, what incident occurred in my life to reinforce this belief.

3. Does this belief empower me

4. What do I need to do to give up this belief

Now do this for the next four negative adjectives

1. In your journal, do this exercise for all of the negatives adjectives on your list

2. Write a short letter to each of the belief systems on your list, thank it for serving you and

replace it with new positive adjectives from your list, make a personal pact to honour this new

belief.

3. Write a positive affirmation for this new positive belief

Example

Negative Adjectives Cold and distantPositive Adjectives Warm and caring

Affirmation

I am a warm and caring person, all my relationships uplift and nurture others while uplifting and

nurturing me.

Develop a POWER Statement

Once the exercise is complete create a POWER statement for yourself, a statement that empowers

you, inspires you and uplifts you. (Say it 20 times a day paste it all over your space on Post Its)

Example

I make a difference

My life is filled with magic, love and fun all that lies ahead is good

Wherever I look I see truth and beauty

There is nothing that I cannot manifest today

The universe is my friend and lover and meets all of my needs


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You cant ask for what you want unless you know what it is. A lot of people dont know what they want

or they want much less than they deserve. First you have figure out what you want. Second, you have

to decide that you deserve it. Third, you have to believe you can get it. And, fourth, you have to have

the guts to ask for it.

Barbara De Angelis

Meditation

Embracing Shadow Self

Close your eyes and return to the sacred garden. Create a safe, sacred environment to do your

exercises in. Again, use your breath to quiet your mind and to bring you deeper into your

consciousness. Now take your internal elevator down seven floors and go into your garden. Walk

through and admire its beauty. When you feel the soothing presence of your surroundings, find your

meditation seat. When you are comfortable and feel safe, bring forth the image of your sacred self.

Imagine basking in all of his or her light. When the image is established, go in and call forth the dark,

shadowy aspect of yourself. Allow this all-loving, beautiful part of your to hold this scary, dark, unloved

part in his or her arms. Imagine sending love, kindness and forgiveness to your dark side. Tell this

dark aspect of yourself that it is safe and that you are going to spend time understanding and learning

to love it.

Spend as much time as you need and dont be upset if your shadow self does not allow itself to be

embraced. Go in and try daily until it does. Often resistance will show up in visualisation, so after ten

minutes or so, say goodbye to both these aspects of yourself and come back to your room.

Take out a piece of paper and some crayons and draw a picture of your experience. You shouldspend about five minutes on it. When youve finished, take out your journal and write about your

meditation and your drawing experience for at least ten minutes.


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Namaste

We are delighted to have accompanied you on your personal journey. Should you wish to give us

feedback we would welcome your comments by email [email protected]

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Every person here has something to share, something to learn and something to teach. We are allequals, here for our own learning and growth.

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This eBook will stimulate your intuition and aid in the development of your psychic abilities, it will

provide certain tools to quieten your mind and prepare you to listen better to your inner wisdom and

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Personal Alchemy A Journey of Transformation

Campus-Based Training at Academies in Durban and Johannesburg

Shadow Dancing is included in our campus based training course Inner Alchemy a journey ofPersonal Transformation available in both Durban from Energencia Academy and in

Johannesburg at Soul Healing Academy the course overview is outlined below.

[email protected]

Personal Alchemy Course Overview

Human Needs and Development

Everyone - dependant on age, circumstance and many other external factors and according to

Freuds unconscious biological drives - is at a unique different level of development and awareness.

This often creates misunderstanding and conflict. Understanding the stages of human development

and adopting an accepting and non-judgemental approach makes our life-path much easier to

navigate and those of others much easier to appreciate.

EnneagramsEmbracing the Self and understanding others

The Enneagram is geometric nine-pointed star (ennea, meaning nineand gram denoting diagram) it

is a triangle and a hexagram enclosed by a circle. The Enneagram is a personality-type tool, which

dates back to the time of the ancient Greek philosopher Pythagoras and to the time of the Sufi

mystics. It identifies nine distinct and unique personality types. The Enneagram is a tool that helps us

understand ourselves and others better, it identifies, nine personality types with nine different

perspectives of the world.

Shadow Dancing

Most of us set out on the path to personal growth because at some point the burden of our pain

becomes too much to bear. Shadow dancing is about unmasking that aspect of ourselves which

destroys our relationships, kills our spirit, and keeps us from fulfilling our dreams. It is what the

psychologist Carl Jung called the shadow. It contains all the parts of ourselves that we have tried to

hide or deny. It contains those dark aspects that we believe are not acceptable to our family, friends,

and most importantly, ourselves. Simply put, we all have a dark side, and if deny our dark side, it will

cast a shadow that will negatively impact our lives. In learning how to confront these shadows, you

can achieve harmony and let your own light shine through by owning every aspect of yourself.

Owning means to acknowledge that a quality belongs to us.

Slaying the Dragons

You as an individual cannot transform yourself unless you personally face your own fears. This is not

easy, but it is absolutely required for any personal breakthrough. Facing fear often means looking at
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the dark, shadowy side of yourself-not to feel guilty or shameful or to punish yourself; but to release

the potential vitality locked up therein. These modules are a guide to facing your fears in the forms of

the seven personal dragons. The dragons exist to make you strong. They are the vehicles of

transformation. Nothing of great value in life is attained without some kind of test. Seven mighty

dragons appear to block the path of all human beings.

Archetypes

Archetypes are your energy guides to your highest potential. The nature of your archetypes is both

intimate and impersonal. Viewed through the heart, they are personal enough to be called

companions. Viewed with the mind they are impersonal, symbolic patterns that serve in the energetic

organization of your spiritual evolution. Working with your archetypal patterns is a way to become

conscious of yourself, the effects of your actions, and the need for choosing wisely every day.

Additional Course Requirements

Internet Access, a Dedicated Journal, and Coloured Pencils

Your own copy of the board game: Scared Contracts: The Journey

(Available from both the Soul Healing and Energencia Academies at a reduced price)

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