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| Date post: | 27-Jan-2017 |
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aimsfor todayDISCUSS CONSIDER ACQUIREthe twelve traits addressed in The Coach’s Casebook
how these traits can impact on your coaching clients and on your coaching practice
a coaching framework to bring these traits back into balance
perfectionismpeoplepleasing
ostri
ch synd
rom
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going toexcess
impostor syndrome
coping with loss
searching for fulfilment
driven by fearfierce independence
cynicism
performance anxiety
procrastination
why I wrote the coach’s casebook 1. To overcome a cocktail of:
PEOPLE PLEASING
PROCRASTINATION
IMPOSTOR SYNDROME
PERFECTIONISM
2. To address frequently presenting issues in my coaching practice:
“Which models to use when and with what/whom?”“How do I explain coaching to buyers?”Normalisation works!Who we are is how we coach
“THE DESIRABLE MIDDLE BETWEEN TWOEXTREMES, ONE OF EXCESS AND THE OTHEROF DEFICIENCY.”
ARISTOTLE
The idea that we have a range of behaviours available to us and that we just need to bring them into balance is less stigmatising than many existing diagnostics.
“WE ARE ALL ORDINARY. WE ARE ALL BORING. WE ARE ALL SPECTACULAR. WE ARE ALL SHY. WE ARE ALL BOLD. WE ARE ALL HEROES. WE ARE ALL HELPLESS. IT JUST DEPENDS ON THE DAY.”
BRAD MELTZER
when the twelve traits
derail us
favouritecoach de-railersPEOPLE PLEASING
PERFECTIONISM
COPING WITH LOSS
IMPOSTOR SYNDROME
performance hindering behavioursINABILITY TO DELEGATE / PRIORITIZEOVER EAGERNESS TO PLEASEPOOR JUDGEMENTREACTIVE NOT PROACTIVEOVERRIDING CHARACTER FLAWPERFECTIONISMLOW SELF-ESTEEM
to please is a diseaseConstantly suppressing own needs Never angry - always agreeingConstantly serving othersAvoiding conflictConfused boundariesDon’t know own mind
EXHAUSTION
STRESS
NO TIME
LOSS OF SELF
DAMAGE TO HEALTH
DISHONEST
LET OTHERS DOWN
TARGET OFMANIPULATION
perfectionism:a double-edged swordUnrelenting standardsNever satisfiedSelf- orientedOther- oriented/social orientedDefensive when criticized
BURNOUT
AVOIDANCE / PROCRASTINATION
IMPOSTOR SYNDROME
CRITICAL OF OTHERS
MICRO-MANAGEMENT
FEAR OF FAILURE
DEPRESSION, SHAMEAND GUILT
BEGINNINGSASSUMPTIONSLIFE STORYALTERNATIVESNEW BEHAVIOURSCOMMITMENTEVIDENCE
“THE KEY TO KEEPING YOUR BALANCEIS KNOWING WHEN YOU’VE LOST IT.”
