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THE POWER OF

FORGIVENESS

Gain the power of forGiVeneSS now

ZAFFAR KHANwww.ZaffarKhan.com

DiScoVer how you can Get benefitS when you forGiVe otherS

DiScoVer how you can Gain thepower of forGiVeneSS

(9 of 21 powerS)

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Dedication

This book is dedicated to good friend of mine

Beverley Gleeson



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Contents PAGE

INTRODUCTION..................................................................................................... 1

CHAPTERONE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5

ThePowerofForgiveness

CHAPTERTWO . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8

ItIsHealthyToForgiveOthers

QUESTIONS&ANSWERS . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16

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INTRODUCTION



Introduction

Power comes from within; power inexhaustible, limitless, and omnipotent. We are complex creatures composed of a body, a soul and a spirit. It is from deep within our spirit that power is released through the soul via our thoughts and emotions. We are a power house, but the power house of itself is nothing; it is necessary to learn how to set that powerhouse in operation.

You have the power to make your state of mind positive or negative and the difference between success and failure in any project is purely a state of mind. You can do anything you set your mind to. Success depends on attitude not aptitude. Know that every man is empty or full, positive or negative. The choice is yours. Your destiny or fate is determined by your own free decision to have, or not have, a goal to reach. Where the attention goes, the power flows.

Each one of us has the power within to be independent – to be self-reliant. Be self aware and know you have the power within you. Learn how to use it wisely so you can come to your full potential. Whatever happens in your life is decided by your own state of mind. You are the one who decides whether or not you are going to be an independent, self-sufficient person. You are the one who decides whether or not you are going to be free – free to be what you want to be, to do what you want to do and to have what you want to have. You have that power within you.

Philosopher, James Allen said:“Through his thoughts, man holds the key to every situation and contains within

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himself that transforming and regenerative agency by which he may make himself what he wills.”

When we understand the power within us we should be careful with it. Power used properly will attract all the help and co-operation needed, just as if a powerful magnet were at the centre of our being. It has been said that a person can release more result getting power through one hour of concentrated thought than through a month of physical work. Surely there is great power within and around each of us for our use. Whatever we radiate or deliberately entertain mentally, we constantly attract. So we must radiate what we wish to experience in life.

Scientists have now been able to create software that enables a computer to receive our human thoughts. A person is wired up to the computer and concentrates on letters to make up words. The computer receives each letter and produces the word on screen. It is being used to help people who, through illness such as stroke, are unable to communicate their needs to others. It is again proving the power of the mind anditransfer of thoughts.

When Julius Caesar sailed over the channel from Gaul and landed with his legions on what is now England, what did he do to ensure the success of his arms? A very clever thing: he halted his soldiers on the chalk cliffs of Dover, and, as they looked down over the waves two hundred feet below, they saw red tongues of fire consume every ship in which they had crossed. In the enemy’s country, with the last link with the Continent gone, the last means of retreating burned, there was but one thing left for them to do: to advance, to conquer. That is precisely what they did. Such was the

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spirit of the immortal Caesar. Why not make it yours, too, as you use the power within you on your journey to success.

Participating in your own evolution in this way becomes both rewarding and exhilarating. For, in developing your talents, you will, at the same time, discover yourself at an intimate and deeper level. It will awaken what the German writer Goethe called “the genius, power and magic” in you. That is what is so exciting – that we can use all the power and ability within ourselves to reach our full potential. It is your choice and your choice alone whether you make use of this power and whether you proceed.

“We need people with more will power, not won’t power

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CHAPTER ONE

THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS



The Power Of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of the strongest of all the powers we possess deep in our spirit, yet it is the one power which we have the most difficulty understanding and putting into action. Harnessing and positively using something so powerful is not easy and it takes a lot of inner strength to be responsible with our life.

We tend to equate forgiveness with weakness but in reality, it takes a strong person to forgive. We need to practice forgiveness every day because we store so many negative attitudes in our emotions, many of which we are not even consciously aware. Resentment is a major negative attitude which can eat at the very soul of a person. It is caused by our own emotional response to a situation. When we harbour resentment for past wrongs we tend to make unreasonable demands on ourselves and others. True forgiveness, however, is therapeutic.

Forgiveness of heart and mind clears the way for future progress. This forgiveness can include recent hurts and those remembered from long ago, even back to your school days.

* ZAFFAR SAYS *“Forgiveness of heart and

mind clears the way for future progress...”

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A good forgiveness technique is to sit for 10 minutes every day and bring to mind everyone that you are out of harmony with, feel badly toward or are concerned about. This will lead to relaxation of mind and body and a positive attitude. Mentally and verbally forgive each of the people involved. It is important to verbalise your forgiveness as this reinforces the act and brings freedom.

So many people are afraid of the word “forgive”, thinking that it means they must do something unpleasant and dramatic; but the word simply means to “give for” – to let go of old ideas, feelings or conditions and to give something better in their place. The “giving for” process frees the mind and makes way for something better. In other words, we get rid of what we don’t want to make room for what we do want.

* ZAFFAR SAYS *“ It is important to verbalise

your forgiveness as this reinforces the act and brings

freedom...”

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CHAPTER TWO

IT IS HEALTHY TO FORGIVE

OTHERS



It Is Healthy To Forgive Others

The power that is generated from your spirit releases either negative or positive energy. Which energy is released depends on your state of mind and what is uppermost in your heart. Lack of forgiveness of yourself or others can cause problems, not only psychologically, but also physically. The negative state of your thoughts can literally make you ill; the cure? Forgiveness. Practicing forgiveness can have a very positive effect on your health. According to studies in the United States, people who have forgiven others experience lower levels of physical pain, anger, anxiety and depression. They also have a lower resting blood pressure and heart rate than people who do not forgive easily. Research also suggests that the ability to forgive yourself and others can boost your immune system and help you recover more quickly from illness and disease. Those people who find it easy to forgive were found to be more likely to work harder to resolve conflict. As a result they tended to have stronger relationships.

The first person we inevitably need to forgive is ourself. Our ability to move forward hinges on our capacity to let go of painful experiences in our past which

* ZAFFAR SAYS *“Those people who find it easy

to forgive were found to be more likely to work harder to

resolve conflict...”

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may have caused remorse and regret. The longer we cling to past trauma, the more we generate an entirely new sequence of negative thoughts, emotions and actions. These can contribute to major difficulties in our lives and lead to distrust and pessimism in our relationships with friends and associates. Often when a stubborn problem does not yield it is because there is a need for forgiveness. A grudge remembered is a grudge unforgiven; however, when we forgive the grudge the body can relax and release the stress.

What do you focus on and think about each day? It is true that your daily thoughts will colour your existence either negatively or positively. What is in the heart will be spoken out of the mouth. Don’t let your ego get in the way of forgiveness. Many have been heard to say, “My un-forgiveness is justified”, however, regardless of how justified they may perceive it to be, a refusal to forgive, regardless of the situation, will inevitably have an undesirable and “negative” effect on their outcomes in life whether physically, relationally, emotionally and spiritually. It is a little known fact that when someone makes the choice to hold resentment or un-forgiveness against another, they are not hurting the person that they are holding the resentment against, but instead only hurting themselves. By demanding justice they are only maintaining their own punishment.

“All that we think becomes true for us. We must not then allow ourselves to think wrongly.” Emile Coue.

Whether the person who wronged you

* ZAFFAR SAYS *“What is in the heart will be spoken out of the mouth...”

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ever asks your forgiveness or not, you can only be free if you refuse to take offence and forgive that person anyway. Some of the greatest problems we encounter in life are “people problems”. We live in a world where personal communications can break down, where conflicts can arise between friends and loved ones, and where close ties may even be severed.

If we allow the negative power of unforgiveness to remain in our heart toward others, regardless of what they may have done against us, we open ourselves to “seven more negative powers” more deadly than unforgiveness. They are: resentment, ill-will, grudges, malice, retaliation, bitterness and hatred. If we examine this list of nasties we note that they are progressively more degrading and can take over our lives.

Often people associate forgiveness only with those major resentments they’ve been carrying against someone. True forgiveness, however, is also for all those “little” hurts and offences that cause you to go out of your way to avoid someone. It’s those memories that cause you to treat someone with less warmth and love because they have injured you in some way. Often the other person is totally unaware of any perceived hurt.

Some people don’t want to give up these things; they sometimes even enjoy hanging on to hurts and the feeling of power they think it gives them over the other person. There is a feeling of self-righteousness which says, “I don’t hate him, I just don’t like him”. How far outside love do you

* ZAFFAR SAYS *“Some of the greatest

problems we encounter in life are people problems...”

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have to go before it is called hate? As far as that power deep within you is concerned, just one step outside of love is hate! You either give positive energy out to others or you give out negative energy. There are no shades of grey in between. There is a saying, “We must forgive our enemies if we ourselves expect forgiveness”. So make the decision today to forgive every little hurt as well as the big offences.

If we can resolve our past emotional issues by accepting that we are human and that we all have different experiences, we go a long way towards healing our wounds. This is part of emotional intelligence. Our past so often gets in the way of our future but if we can deal with it by truly forgiving ourself, this can be the first step toward healing. The healing process, however, comes with additional lessons to be learned such as taking responsibility for one’s actions and making amends.

Forgiveness is a choice. A choice to forgive or not is a choice that we have been provided the inalienable right of free will to exercise. When you hold a grudge, you are making the other person responsible for your happiness and allowing your anger toward them to control you. But when you forgive someone, you take responsibility for your own happiness and are no longer controlled by your anger.

If you made a choice to plant an apple seed you certainly would not expect to produce oranges from that original seed! No more can you expect to receive pleasing and positive life outcomes based on planting and nurturing seeds of resentment and un-forgiveness. From a more human

* ZAFFAR SAYS *“Forgiveness is a choice...”

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perspective, if you plant “negative” seeds you will reap negative results. If you plant “positive” seeds, you will reap positive results.

So, do not waste time holding a grudge, even toward those who have treated you unjustly. You will meet such people along the way, as you rise toward success. Others may try to hold you down to a mediocre level and hurt you in some way. Forgive them and release them and move on. Nobody can keep your success from you but yourself. If just one of the people connected with the problem will start the action of forgiveness, all concerned will respond, be blessed and the solution will come. Forgiveness is operating in the present where hurt and anger are forgotten and so no longer hold power.

When you properly, consistently and “consciously” implement the power of forgiveness into your life, refuse to judge and choose to exercise an “attitude of gratitude” in whatever experiences you may encounter, you will experience your personal ability to attract and create your life in a positive manner.

The following ancient wisdom is not based on law as many perceive, but is profound and life changing. If you consciously and consistently apply it, it can and will change the entire course of your life. What is this ancient wisdom? “Judge and you will not

be judged”.

To complete the healing process we need to learn to love and accept ourself for the great person that we are.

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* ZAFFAR SAYS *“we need to learn to love and accept ourself for the great

person that we are...”



Love is, indeed, the only sure secret to good health and happiness. It never fails because it does not harbour anger, anxiety or resentments. Nothing works without it and there can be no failure with it. When we live by love, forgiveness becomes easy. By developing the ability to forgive and eliminate judgement unconditionally, you will have made tremendous and powerful progress in your ability to begin experiencing a life of ease, harmony and overall well being physically, financially, relationally, emotionally and spiritually.

It is not wise to convince yourself that you have forgiven someone when, deep down, you know you haven’t. Sincerity and honesty cannot be faked. Forgiveness needs to be a “forgetting” process where pain, anger and grief are left in the past and forgotten. We not only forget the ‘slight’ but forget that we have had to forgive. Nothing negative is remembered, the past is forgotten and emphasis is on the present and future.

Only real forgiveness, coming from deep within the heart and mind, can bring freedom to the emotions, and indeed, the whole body. Give the gift of forgiveness to the other person and you, too, will be free to be a happier person leading to a life filled with love, joy, harmony, fulfilment, profound inner peace and limitless prosperity.

* ZAFFAR SAYS *“ Sincerity and honesty cannot

be faked...”

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The following poem by Helen Schucman in A Course in Miracles:

Do you want peace?Forgiveness offers it.

Do you want happinessA quiet mind,

A certainty of purpose,A sense of worth and beautyThat transcends the world?

Do you want a quietness that cannot be disturbed,A gentleness that can never be hurt,

A deep abiding comfort,And a rest so perfect it can never be upset?

All this forgiveness offers you.

Quote: My enemies are my friends who don’t know me.PA

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QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS

Question 1 What does the word “forgive” mean?Answer Don’t be afraid of the word. It simply means to “give for” – to let go of old ideas, feelings or conditions and to give something better in their place. The “giving for” process frees the mind and makes way for something better.

Question 2 What happens when I don’t forgive?Answer Lack of forgiveness brings resentment and can cause further problems, not only psychologically, but also physically. The negative state of unforgiving thoughts can literally make people ill. When you cling on to past trauma you generate an entirely new sequence of negative thoughts, emotions and actions which can lead to distrust and pessimism in your relationships. Most importantly, unforgiveness hurts the person who refuses to forgive far more than the person they are holding the resentment against.

Question 3 Who is the first person I should forgive?Answer Inevitably, the first person you need to forgive is yourself. Your ability to move forward with your life depends on your ability to let go of negative thoughts, emotions and actions and painful experiences in the past which may have caused remorse and regret. Don’t let the past get in the way of your future.

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Question 4 Can I forgive but not forget?Answer That is not true forgiveness, it is second-rate and you shouldn’t settle for it. When you forgive, forget the wrong and move forward in love for that person. Forgiveness needs to be a forgetting process where pain, anger and grief are left in the past and forgotten. Don’t only forget the insult but forget that you had to forgive. Nothing negative is remembered and your emphasis is on the future.

Question 5 What does true forgiveness do?Answer Forgiveness reconciles people to each other. It also releases both the forgiver and the forgiven bringing peace and freedom to get on with their lives. Choosing to forgive sheds the burdens of hurt and pain and allows healing.

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The Power Of Now The Power Of Awareness The Power Of Delegation The Power Of Thinking BigThe Power Of Belief The Power Of FailureThe Power Of Change The Power Of Being DifferentThe Power Of Focus The Power Of Mentor Or CoachThe Power Of Result-Oriented Tasks The Power Of PersistenceThe Power Of Prioritising Your Work The Power Of PatienceThe Power Of Action Without Procrastination The Power Of The Mind The Power Of Forgiveness The Power Of Helping Others The Power Of Open Heart And Mind The Power Of Commitment The Power Of Sense Of Humour

21 POWERSHow to gain control of your thoughts and tap into the enormous power

within you to bring balance & well-being into your personal & business life with the following powers

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SUMMARY

The power of forgiveness comes from the heart. Harness this power and it will clear the way for a future of peace and harmony. Unforgiveness, on the other hand, generates negative feelings and adds new conflicts to an already difficult situation. Forgiveness is a choice and when you forgive someone you take responsibility for your own happiness. When you refuse to judge or hold a grudge you will be free to create your life in a positive manner which leads to

great blessing, peace and joy.

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