The Roman Catholic Parish of St. Vincent de Paul 250 Bebout Avenue Stirling, New Jersey 07980 Phone: (908) 647-0118 Fax: (908) 647-5992 Parish Office—908-647-0118 In an emergency call 973-222-0720 Parish website: stvincentschurch.org Parish email: [email protected]PASTORAL STAFF Fr. A. Richard Carton, Pastor [email protected]Fr. William (Bill) Mooney Weekend Assistant Elena Bird Zolnick Director of Sacred Music [email protected]Vincent G. Clarke, Organist Sr. Krystyna Dziadkowiec Pastoral Associate and Sacristan [email protected]Sr. Elsa Jeronimo, C.S.JB. Director of Social Outreach [email protected]Deirdre Nemeth 908-647-0421 Director of Faith Formation [email protected]Youth Ministry [email protected]Peter O’Neill, Deacon [email protected]Parish Trustees Alan Tangreti and Timothy Wallisch PARISH OFFICE STAFF John Castagna Business and Facilities Manager [email protected]Vera Castagna Parish Secretary [email protected]Maria DeLuca Faith Formation Secretary [email protected]Teri Kesselmeyer-Local Youth Protection/Safe Environment Coordinator Technology and Communications [email protected]We are a Catholic community rooted in the Eucharist and committed to the poor. Sunday Mass Schedule (Vigil Mass) Saturday —5:00PM Sunday 8:30AM, 10:30AM and 6:00PM Confession: Saturday at 4PM or other days by appointment. Weekday Mass Schedule 8:30AM Monday—Saturday “It would be easier for the world to survive without the sun than to do so without the Holy Mass.” St. Padre Pio
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The Roman Catholic Parish of St. Vincent de Paul 250 Bebout Avenue
Stirling, New Jersey 07980 Phone: (908) 647-0118 Fax: (908) 647-5992
October 20, 2019 Twenty-Ninth Sunday in Ordinary Time Page Two
MASS INTENTIONS MONDAY October 21st 8:30AM Robert Quinn Franco Giusti Lena and Duke Dorsi
TUESDAY October 22nd Saint John Paul II, Pope
8:30AM Father John Calabro (Living) Louis Aroneo
Calvin Henderson
WEDNESDAY October 23rd Saint John of Capistrano, Priest
8:30AM Kimberly Rose Strobel William B. Murray
Michael and Rita Pavlo
THURSDAY October 24th Saint Anthony Mary Claret, Bishop 8:30AM Lena Dorsi Frank Vicendese Ann Sylvestro-Granato
FRIDAY October 25th 8:30AM Christina Wan (Living) Gloria Shope Anthony Shallo
SATURDAY October 26th 8:30AM Frank Vicendese
Geri Cacciato Benny DiMascio
Frank Sama
Thirtieth Sunday in Ordinary Time
5:00PM (Vigil) Margaret Carney John O’Herron
Ruth Raibley
8:30AM Deacon Bill Wagner Frank and Josephine Gallo
Deceased members of the Buziak/McMonagle Families
10:30AM Frank Critelli Mary Morris
Corsino and Anita Mendes
6:00PM Gloria Shope Msgr. Robert Diachek
Deceased members of the parish
STEWARDSHIP REPORT
Parish Expense Budget 2019-2020 — $1,275,000 includes Diocesan Assessment of $105,000
Less other projected income — ($340,000.00)
Annual amount needed from collections $935,000
Amount needed from the weekly collections $17,980
Collection for the weekend of Oct. 12th and 13th
Total collected at Masses $9,448
Online WeShare Amount $3,746 Total $13,194 Deficit for this week $4,786
Deficit to Date $93,645 Collection for Diocesan Assessment $2,381
Next weekend our parish will hold the annual NJ Right to Life Raffle. Purchase a ticket and possibly win a new Volvo. Tickets are $10 (cash or check made out to NJRTL). Please support the important Right to Life
work being done in our State. The date of the drawing will be November 22nd. If you are available to staff a table and help sell tickets please contact Helen O’Mullan at 908-647-6521.
SUPPORT LIFE IN NEW JERSEY!
The Nine Months of the Child Jesus in the Womb of Mary
Each year on December 25 we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. For centuries the Church has also celebrated His conception on March 25, the feast of the Annunciation.
The Eighth Month-Oct. 25th to Nov. 25th Mary’s pregnancy is nearing its completion. The crib and baby clothing are ready. But the best laid plans are sometimes turned upside down. The village is abuzz with the news that those of the House of David will be called shortly to Bethlehem to be counted among this princely dynasty. In Mary’s eighth month, the infant Jesus’ skin begins to thicken and layers of fat are stored underneath for insulation and nourishment. Antibodies are building up. Jesus’ quarters are getting cramped; chin on chest, His knees, arms and legs bent. Many twins are born in the eighth month. Pray for physicians and health care providers to foster the reverence for life.
40 Days For Life prayer vigils continue at Planned Parenthood, 196 Speedwell Ave., Morristown and Options for Women, 1024 Park Ave., Plainfield 7 days a week from 7am to 7pm until November 3rd. To participate call 973-627-1654 or email [email protected].
Frequently we are asked about resources to help parents in teaching their children to pray. I asked a friend of mine who is in the know where I might direct parents so that they could have something in their hands and at home. She sent this article, beautifully written, by Olivia Spears at the Blessed is She website, blessedisshe.net. I recommend this site to moms who are looking to connect with others for inspiration and ideas as women, mothers and disciples. In her article Olivia mentions a devotional for children, Rise Up, which is available on the site. Spread the word, resources abound.
The Most Important Thing I Want My Children to Know When I’m kept up at night by my racing thoughts, they usually revolve around my children. Specifically, they involve rigorous scrutiny of what I am or am not doing to raise them well, ideas for improvement, and decisions that are, in my mind, life or death decisions. Every single time. Once my mind starts to spiral this way, I do my best to remind myself of the most important thing. The most important thing I want them to learn is how to have a relationship with Jesus. Yes, I want them to learn how to tie their shoes and fold laundry, to spell their names and to not interrupt. But at the end of the day, my primary goal is to help them become saints. And although this task can feel overwhelming, once I remind myself that my job is to help my kids know, love, and serve the Lord, I relax.
Fostering a Relationship with Christ The beautiful thing about Jesus is that His Heart is ready to relieve my stresses about parenting styles, schooling options, activity choices, and discipline methods. He is my simple answer. And He is my children’s simple answer. Helping my children come to know Him really just involves the ways I personally come to know Him more. So I focus on assisting them in: 1. Appreciating (and eventually, frequenting) the Sacraments, especially reception of the Eucharist. 2. Forming life-giving friendships. 3. Creating a Christ-centered learning environment. 4. Encouraging them to use their unique gifts and personality for the Kingdom. 5. Exposing them to the true, good, and beautiful found in nature, the arts, and other people. 6. Turning to God first in both sorrow and joy. 7. Learning how to talk with God and how to recognize His voice, particularly through the Word. This last point is the one I’d like to unpack with you.
Learning How to Talk with God Because God is perfect, every new thing we learn about Him is another reason to love Him. And the best way to learn about Him? Learning about Him in our own hearts, through the indwelling of the Holy Spirit. I didn’t really know how to talk with God until I was a young adult. Being raised Catholic, I knew my Hail Mary and my Act of Contrition. I even understood the beauty of praying for other people like we do through the petitions at every Mass. And I always nailed the, “Please, God, let me pass this test,” plea every time. But actually talking to God as though He was someone I knew? That was a foreign concept. It wasn’t until I was shown how to have a real, honest, intimate conversation with Jesus that I even knew it was a thing. Once I opened my heart to Him and allowed Him to speak to me, I couldn’t get enough. I learned about His voice first and foremost through Sacred Scripture. I also tuned my ear to His voice through the teachings of the Church, the writings of the Saints, and the wisdom of the liturgy. Through the triumphs and tragedies of my life, His voice has been my unwavering solid ground. My ability to have a conversation with Jesus has brought me back from the brink more times than I can count. Turning to Jesus as my friend has literally changed my life. And that’s the most important thing I want my children to know.
Leading My Children to the Feet of Jesus I’m not an expert at teaching my children how to talk with Jesus. I’m an unseasoned mom, and most of the time I feel overwhelmed by the concept of raising humans. But I know that our efforts are rewarded, so I’m giving it my best shot. I also realize that I’m not alone in these feelings. I’m not alone in wanting my children to have a personal relationship with Jesus, the kind we may not have had until our adulthood. It was with this heart that we at Blessed is She created Rise Up, our first devotional for kids. We wanted to give the kids in our lives—our own children, our students, our godchildren, our nieces and nephews—something to facilitate a personal encounter with Jesus Christ. We know what such an encounter has done in our own lives, and that’s the legacy we want to leave with the next generation. Rise Up seeks to bring kids to the feet of God through examining the virtues which He possess perfectly. As children learn about the virtues (which are laid out by St. Thomas Aquinas), they are immersed in the Word of God, excerpts from the Catechism, and quotes from the Saints. They are led to examination through short reflections ending with a closing prayer. The best part? It’s written on a level they can understand without watering down the Truth of the Gospel. Sometimes we underestimate children. But they are capable of grasping great richness, especially when it comes to Christ. After all, He did say that in order to enter the Kingdom, we must be like children.
The Legacy I Want to Leave When all is said and done, and I transition out of the season of motherhood where my children share a roof with me, I hope the main lesson they leave with is that Jesus loves them with His whole Heart. I hope that I can help inspire them to return that Love with their own imperfect love. Being an imperfect mother myself, I am grateful for resources like Rise Up to help me teach them to pray, to introduce them to the greatness of God, and to be a facilitator of conversations with Christ that can change the trajectory of their entire lives.
More is available from Olivia Spears at the Blessed is She site, blessedisshe.net and at her own site totheheights.com
October 19th and 20th Page Three
October 19th and 20th Page FourPLEASE REMEMBER IN YOUR PRAYERS
Those who serve in the military: R.J. Hainey, Hayden Schultz, Michael Conant, Tyler Nelson, Damian McCoy, Calla Ann Armenti, Dylan T. Jones, James Minogue, Stephen J. Campbell, Frank Fasano, Richard Lister, Eric Leverone, Jay Donato, Frank Messina, Eileen Murphy, Peter Giovanni
Those who are ill: Ann D’Aries, Mary Bigelis, Deacon Peter O’Neill, John Wharton, Kevin Shea, Pat Bergin, James Castagna, Sharon Baker, Jennifer Pellecchia, Rhoda and Ike Blake, Denise Garcia, Susan Olkusz, Cecile Fountain Jardim, Rita D’Angelo, Jim Fittin, Sandra Fittin, Jane Moran, John Daglian, Parker Watson, Annette McGrory, Lucy Bustillos, Bill Wallisch, Larry Oster, Nanci Gamba, and Elizabeth Early
Those who have died to this world Carmine Lovallo, Carmine Calarco,
Abbot Brian Clarke Requiescat in Pace
May all the faithful who have departed this world rest in your eternal peace. Amen
READINGS FOR NEXT SUNDAY First Reading: Sirach 35:12-14, 16-18 God is just and does not show favoritism, but hears the prayers of everyone. Anyone who serves God, no matter how lowly his position here on earth, will be heard and answered.
Second Reading: 2 Timothy 4:6-8, 16-18 Paul writes to Timothy that he thinks his mission is near the end, and he is glad his faith is still strong. Paul hopes that all nations will hear the gospel. But, if he is executed as he anticipates, he is sure he will live forever in heaven.
Gospel: Luke 18:9-14 Jesus tells a parable about a Pharisee who went to the temple, and offered up a prayer of thanks because he was not a sinner like the tax collector who was also there to pray. The tax collector was far more humble, acknowledging his sins, and asking forgiveness for them. Jesus said the tax collector's prayer would be heard because, "Everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, while he who humbles himself will be exalted."
Getting Ready For Sunday If you are in search of a deeper insight into the Scripture Readings for Sunday Mass prayerfully consider joining Fr. Richard on Thursdays 1:00pm to 2:00pm in the church meeting room and repeated in the evening
from 7:30pm to 9:00pm in the Library. By gaining an understanding of the context and culture within which they were written, the upcoming Sunday Readings will surely take on a more profound and richer meaning for you. Previous attendance is not required.
Daily Mass Readings Monday Rom 4:20-25; Lk 12:13-21
Tuesday Rom 5:12, 15b, 17-19, 20b-21; Lk 12:35-38
Wednesday Rom 6:12-18; Lk 12:39-48
Thursday Rom 6:19-23; Lk 12:49-53
Friday Rom 7:18-25a; Lk 12:54-59
Saturday Rom 8:1-11; Lk 13:1-9
Sr. Elsa’s Spiritual Book Club will resume on Monday, October 21st at 9:15am in the Church Meeting Room. The book we will be discussing is entitled Rethinking Mary in the New Testament by Edward Sri and examines every key New
Testament reference to Mary while addressing questions you may have along the way. All are welcome to participate. To purchase the book, email Sr Elsa at [email protected] or call the parish office.
ALTAR SERVERS NEEDED
Students in 3rd grade and beyond who are interested in training to be an Altar Server are encouraged to have a parent contact Sr. Krystyna at the parish office to let us know so that training can be set up for you.
Serving at the Altar is a great gift to Jesus and this community and will deepen your love for Jesus in the Holy Eucharist.
T h e L i f e M i n i s t r i e s Committee is presenting a program entitled “An Honest Discussion of End of Life Issues” on Saturday, October 26th beginning at 7:00pm. See enclosed flyer for details.
BRIDGES OUTREACH
Our first Bridges Run will be Saturday, October 26th. To donate supplies to make
250 sandwiches and fill 250 goody bags for the homeless visit:
www.perfectpotluck.com Coordinator: bridges
Password: 2323
Please bring donated items to the church meeting room the week prior to the Run. Monetary donations are welcome. Volunteers are needed to donate supplies, make sandwiches and attend the Run. To go on the Run you must be in high school or older. To volunteer please go to the parish website to sign up.
Set Free: Journey of Recovery through the Gifts of the Holy Spirit
Our addictions do not make us less loved by God. Jesus reminds us that with Him we are capable of living in freedom. So if God believes in us, why don’t we believe in ourselves? Join us for lecture and group discussion on Tuesday, October 22nd and November 26th from 7:30pm to 9:00pm. For information and to register visit insidethewalls.org/set-free
ST. PAUL INSIDE THE WALLS, MADISON
Food Pantry Needs (Revised) Coffee, rice, peanut butter, chili, canned beets, canned mixed vegetables, canned crème corn, pineapple, hot cocoa, pancake mix and honey nut cheerios. Please no oversized or bulk items.
Thank you in advance for your generosity to those in need.
Hudson Way Immersion School, which leases the school building on our property, is a preschool and elementary school. They are looking to fill the position for an After Care Teacher who would be responsible, flexible and able to supervise and care for students after regular school hours on Monday through Friday from 3:00pm to 6:30pm for the 2019-2020 school year. A complete job description is available at the parish office. Please call John Castagna 908-647-0118 for more information.
AFTER CARE TEACHER POSITION
St. Vincent de Paul Parish and St. Mary Stony Hill in Watchung will be hosting their Bereavement Support Group starting on Thursday, October 24th at 7:00pm to 8:30pm at St. Mary’s Center, 225
Mountain Blvd., Watchung. The group will meet each Thursday until December 5th. The sessions are open to all who are grieving the loss of a loved one, be it a family member or a friend. To register please contact Barbara Carlson at 908-647-0407 or call the parish office.
BEREAVEMENT MINISTRY
Array of Hope is a lay apostolate within the Archdiocese of Newark that exists to reveal the “Truths of our Faith” by creating high quality films, music and events. Each year Array of Hope hosts its Gala event, an inspiring evening filled with live music, fellowship and film premiers. Being honored are Abby Johnson of the movie Unplanned and her husband Doug Johnson, Clare Byrne, Founder of Imprint Hope and the guest speaker is Mario Enzler, former Swiss Guard to Pope John Paul II. The event is Wednesday, October 23rd at 6pm at the Valley Regency, Clifton. For tickets visit www.arrayofhope.net or call 201-261-3372.
2019 ARRAY OF HOPE GALA
HEARTS OF JOY INTERNATIONAL
Hearts of Joy International is a non profit organization
that provides life saving heart surgery for individuals with
Down Syndrome where families cannot afford medical
care. Currently serving children in Uganda, the
Philippines and India, they exist to help these children
reach their full potential in life by granting them access to open heart surgery as well as offering
resources, support and education to their parents on the inherent dignity and value of their child. To
donate visit www.heartsofjoyinternational.com. All donations are tax deductible.
St. Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle. Be our protection against the wickedness and
snares of the devil. May God rebuke him, we humbly pray; and do
Thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host, by the power of God, cast into hell Satan and all
the evil spirits who prowl around the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen
This prayer is prayed at the end of every Mass. It can be found on the back inside cover of the
Hymnal. Ever since Pope Leo XIII composed it, the Saint Michael Prayer has continued to be a
staple of Catholic prayer and should be prayed to combat the presence of evil in our lives.
The Saint Michael Prayer
CONVERSATIONS FOR SINGLES
COVENANT HOUSE SLEEPOUT AMERICA
Covenant House of New Jersey helps to serve the homeless and trafficked youth population. A unique opportunity is available for anyone interested or in need of a service project. Sleep Out America is a night that takes place in 50 states across the country and will be held November 22nd. Individuals, kids, families and groups come together to raise money and awareness by sleeping outside at their chosen location with a box and sleeping bag, sending a very important message to our youth that they are not alone. If this is of interest to you please reach out to Kirsten Corley, Development Associate at Covenant House, Newark 973-621-8705 ext.3431 or visit their website at www.covenanthousenj.org.
T h e D i v o r c e d / S e p a r a t e d Ministry at Little Flower Parish is hosting an evening of Coffee and Conversation for all those who are single. These gatherings will be offered monthly for those who are divorced, separated, widowed and never married. The discussions
will focus on the challenges and joys of single life. The first meeting will be Friday, November 8th at 7:30pm to 9:00pm at the Little Flower Bernauer Parish Center, 290 Plainfield Ave., Berkeley Heights. The suggested donation is $5.00 for refreshments. RSVP to [email protected] or call Margaret at 908464-1585.
MOUNT ST. MARY HOUSE OF PRAYER
The Qualities of Mercy: 50 Years of Monastic Life from
Holly wood to Holy Vows Sunday, October 27th 12:00 to 3:00pm
Union Catholic High School, Scotch Plains You are invited to an inspirational talk by Mother Dolores Hart, OSB. She will reflect on her life and
share her love story with God. How many of us would walk away from an exciting career and have
the courage to follow the tiny whispering voice deep inside us? Come and be inspired by this
amazing story of fidelity. $45.00 per person which includes brunch.
Registration required by calling 908-753-2091 or email:[email protected]
OPEN HOUSES
Morris Catholic High School, Denville Wednesday, October 23rd from
7:00 to 9:00pm. Please register to attend at www.morriscatholic.org/OpenHouse/
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ Union Catholic High School, Scotch Plains
Information Night Wednesday, November 6th at 7:00pm.
For more information contact Betsy Thornton at 908-889-1600 ext. 302 or [email protected] ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
Oak Knoll School of the Holy Child, Summit Saturday, November 16th for girls grades 7
thru 12. Registration is at 9:30am. For information and to register contact Suzanne
Lewis, Admissions Director at 908-522-8109 or visit www.oakknoll.org
Pre registration is suggested. ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
Oratory Prep School , Summit Thursday, October 24th
from 6:45pm to 8:15pm. No rsvp is necessary. For further information call 908-273-1084 ext. 1 or visit www.oratoryprep.org. ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
Immaculata High School, Somerville Sunday, October 27th
from 12:00pm until 4:00pm. For further information call
908-722-0200 ext. 218 or visit www.ImmaculataHighSchool.org/OpenHome
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ Seton Hall Prep School, West Orange
Sunday, October 27th for 7th and 8th grade boys between noon and 3:00pm. For information
contact Michael Zinsmeister, Director of Admissions at 973-325-6640 or visit www.shp.org
