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Things We Think, But Don’t SayThe Power of Restorative CommunicationPATRICK J . HALE, M.S.ED.RESIDENCE HALL DIRECTORBOSTON UNIVERSITY RESIDENCE LIFE
What You Will Learn How to communicate effectively in difficult situations
What it means to be “restorative”
How to respond in situations of conflict
Different styles of communication
Tools for how you can be restorative in your communication
Residence Life MissionResidence Life engages and connects students in residential and University communities, fostering students’ growth as leaders equipped to interact in a local and global context.We strive to facilitate student learning and development in a safe and healthy experience, defined by respect and dignity for all individuals.
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Human beings are happier, more cooperative, more productive, and more likely to make positive changes in their behavior when those in positions of authority do things with them, rather than to them or for them.
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Avoider Accommodator
Competitor Collaborator
Compromiser
Compass of ShameWithdraw
avoid
ATTACKOTHERS
attackself
Restorative Communication Practices & Tools
Affective statements◦ “I felt really angered by what you said/did.”◦ “I’m concerned that what you said hurt that other student.”◦ “I appreciate you hearing me out.”
Affective questions◦ “What did you mean by that statement?”◦ “How do you think the other person might have been affected by your
actions?”
Restorative Communication Practices & Tools
Small Impromptu Conferences
Community Circles
Formal Conferences
Raising the B.A.R.
Breathe Acknowledge Respond
ReactAttackBreathe
Best Way to Communicate with Others
The Harmful Way to Communicate with Others
Other Things You Can Do
Focus on the behavior
Use “I” statements
Control your own actions
Engage without judgment
Be patient
Take care of yourself
Things You Should Try to Avoid
Pass judgment on the person
Be “preachy”
Yell or shout at the person
Offend the other person
Force the other person to change