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C00307 Copyright © 2011 Annie Fox, M.Ed.

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Hey Terra,

When I’m with my friends I don’t behave. And even though I don’t want to act cool and kinda mean, I feel like I have to! I don’t wanna be with them anymore, but if I leave to be with nicer girls they’ll call me names like “you’re a user.” HELP!

Not Really a Mean Girl

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Hey Terra,

Since high school, peer pressure has gotten worse. To fit in, my friends chose the path of drugs, sex, and alcohol. I, however, felt under pressure to be perfect in every way. I saw perfection in the prettiest, skinniest, most popular girls. I tried to form myself into this “skinny” image in my head...

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...I began eating less and less. It caused my period to stop. I couldn’t stay warm. I was tired and stressed all the time. I’m 5’4” and in September I weighed 115. Now I weight 98. Whenever I eat I go into a panic and hate myself. I don’t know what to do! Help!!!

Skinny and Stressed

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Hey Terra,

I’m worried. My sleep is getting deeper and deeper.

Dad says it’s a struggle to wake me for school and I can get angry to the point of wanting to hurt someone. Are there syndromes or hormones that cause this?

Freaked

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Hey Terra,

I love my mom but she really annoys me to the point of tears and even deep sadness. At times I’ve thought I’m depressed.

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Every little thing, be it a tiny piece of paper on the floor or a dish that didn’t wash properly in the dishwasher, she’ll find a way to make it my fault. I know that sounds dramatic, and you’ll probably dismiss me as a whiny teen, but it seriously can’t be always my fault! You’re the only person I’ve told this to.

So Lost

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Is it really stress?

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What does “stress” mean?• Overloaded

• Overworked

• Overwhelmed

• Powerless

• Frustrated

•Worried

• To not feel good about your life

• Nothing’s right and everything is wrong

• Pain and failure

• Lots of problems

• Pulling my hair out

• No sleep

• Stupid people telling me what to do

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Your Body•Dizzy

•Headache

•Upset stomach

•Exhausted

•Nervous and antsy

•I can’t concentrate

• Like adrenaline is pumping through my veins really fast

• I feel fat and slow

• I feel like I’m trapped in a cage

•I feel like my head’s going to explode

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Your Emotions

•Crabby

•A mix of mad and sad

•I feel like crying

•Like my whole world is falling down on me

•I feel like quitting

• I feel disappointed in myself and think that I have no friends because I’m a terrible person

•Like there’s a lion roaring in my heart

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Your Behavior

• I just want to sleep and not face the day

• I can’t stop eating

• I cut

• I drink

• I stare at a wall for a long time

• I don’t want to cooperate or talk to anyone

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Your Behavior

• I yell at people and get into fights

• I complain

• I blame other people for my mistakes

• I get kinda mean

• I smash stuff up

• I catch an attitude with everyone for no reason

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✴ Less able to come up with thoughtful decisions

✴More likely to misinterpret intentions

✴More likely to say or do things we’ll later regret

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Stress also makes us:


I’m soooo sorry I...•Didn’t tell my friend his joke hurt my feelings

• Lied to my parents

• Got drunk

• Broke my brother’s X-Box (on purpose)

• Stole some stuff because my friends told me to

• Lost my virginity to a guy I didn’t even know

• Punched a wall and broke two knuckles

• Continually MESS UP!!!

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Your Three-Part Brain

Reptilian Brain(Survival)

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Your Three-Part BrainMammalian Brain

(Emotions)

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(Emotions)

Neo-Cortex(Problem-solving)

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(Emotions)


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Prefrontal Lobe Plan ahead

Predict outcomesControl impulses


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(Emotions)


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Prefrontal Lobe (Plan ahead

Predict outcomesControl impulses)



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When kids and adults are upset we don’t think very clearly, so we’re more likely to say or do things we later regret.

You can help kids calm down with the following technique. It can also work whenever you are too stressed to think!

Guiding Young People Through Emotional Times


1. Tell the Truth. “I’m upset!” Better than pretending you’re OK when you’re not.

2. STOP. Otherwise you’ll make the situation worse.


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3. BREATHE



4. THINK: “What am I trying to do?”

5. THINK: Does someone else need to change? If yes –return to #4 and focus on your behavior & reactions.

6. LIST OPTIONS: How might I reach my goal? Include a predicted outcome for each option.

7. EVALUATE OPTIONS: Choose the option that reflects caring & respect for yourself and others.

8. Congrats! You stayed calm and thought it through.

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