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DISCIPLINE“OK, here are your options:jump and discover the joyof flight, or don’t jump and I’ll kick your butt out of the tree.
What kind of teaching is this?
3 R’s of punishment:
1. RESENTMENT
2. REVENGE
3. RETREAT
Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make a child do better, first we have to make them feel worse.
Children do better when they feel better!
TYPES OF PARENTING or TEACHING:
• Permissive:– Freedom without order– No restriction, rules – No consequences
Creates a manipulative personality, aggression,and independence.
TYPES OF PARENTING or TEACHING:
• Authoritative (Democratic):– Mutual Respect– Cooperation– Freedom with Order
Creates a self disciplinedchild who is responsiblefor own actions.
TYPES OF PARENTING or TEACHING:
• Authoritarian
• External Control
• Punishment
• Order without freedom
WHY DO CHILDREN MISBEHAVE?
•A misbehaving child is a discouraged child. Why?
MISBEHAVIOR:• Is based on a child’s mistaken
interpretation of how to find BELONGING & SIGNIFICANCE
4 GOALS OF MISTAKEN BEHAVIOR:
1. Attention2. Power3. Revenge4. Give-up
Most common reason for misbehavior:
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ATTENTIONOTHER BEHAVIORS
KEEP RULES SHORT & SIMPLE
1. Be nice to teacher and classmates
2. Raise hand to speak
3. Walk in halls
CLASSROOM DISCIPLINE…
Be silent or whisper
• Resist giving attention to the disruptor– “Someone is disturbing the class”
• Move closer, place hand on shoulder
•Involve them!!!
• Talk privately– “What can I do to get your help?”
ALWAYS REMEMBER:
•MISTAKES R WUNDERFULL OPPERTUNITEEZ 2 LERN!–Recognize your mistake–Reconcile “I’m sorry”–Resolve: Focus on solutions rather than blame.
Solution to All Misbehavior:
Spend special timeWith the child eachday!
Solution to Attention Problems:
• Ignore if possible• Give attention when good• Redirect• Logical consequences• Choices
Solution to Power Problems:
• Withdraw• Cool off• Problem solve together• Win cooperation• Act
4 Steps for Winning Cooperation:
1. Get into child’s world • Check it out
2. Show understanding3. Share your feelings4. Find a solution
together
Solution to Revenge Problems:
• Withdraw from revenge cycle• Win child over• Solve the problem• Take away items they could
destroy• Apologize if needed
Solution to Inadequacy Problems:
• Avoid pity• Encourage & train• Create small
successes• Don’t give up
Believe that children are basically GOOD!
Make sure the message of LOVE always gets
through:
TIMING:
•It is impossible to solve problems at
the time of CONFLICT!
LISTEN FIRST:•Children will listen to you after they feel listed to.
NATURAL & LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:
• NATURAL: Simply happen naturally– No coat = cold
• LOGICAL: Are decided upon and imposed by parents or teachers
LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:
• One needs to be:– Firm– Calm– Positive toward
child
No laughing at…
No teasing or humiliation
No threatening
No frightening
3 R’S OF LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:
1.RELATED2.RESPECTFUL3.RESONABLE
TIME OUT: An alternative to spanking.1. Gives child time to calm down & time
to think about the correct way to act.2. Child is moved away from others –
an effective consequence.
Only use if child is out of control, hurting others or destroying things.
TIME OUT GUIDELINES:• Choose a location that is dull and away from
others. • Use time out immediately after misbehavior
occurs.• Length of time = 1 minute for each year of
age.• Don’t’ talk to child until afterwards (Make
sure they understand the “WHY”).• Reward good behavior after time out, as soon
as they do something positive.
DISCIPLINE STEPS:1. Redirect2. Check it out3. Speak to the child about the
problem4. Give choices5. Use logical or natural consequences6. Use time out if still out of control
CLASSROOM DISCIPLINE:• Have rules and remind
them often
FORBIDDEN DISCIPLINE ACTIONS:
•No spanking
No picking children up
No insults
No swinging children