Post on 17-Dec-2015
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Eliminate ResentmentEliminate Resentment
With Your…With Your…
Regulate AngerRegulate Anger
With no regard for your well being or best interests…
Anger & Resentment Anger & Resentment Make you want to…
Avoid or
Attack
Avoid or
Attack
AvoidAvoidGet away
Change the subject
Do something else
Pretend to listen
Patronize
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AttackAttack
Take them down a peg…
In someone’s face.
Or…
Either in your head…
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Sarcasm Mockery
Intimidation
Humiliation
Abuse NEXTNEXT
Rejection
AttackAttack
False PowerFalse Power
Anger and resentment give a sense of false power that lasts only as long as the emotion lasts.
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Power is not just the ability to do something or get someone else to do something.
For instance, you have the ability to…
False PowerFalse Power
Powerful or Stupid?
Drive your car into the side of a building or…
Hurt someone you love.
Are these:
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Genuine Power is
Genuine Power is
Acting in your long-term best interest, no matter what!
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Causes of Anger & Resentment
Causes of Anger & Resentment
Unless you’re physically attacked, other people or situations cannot directly cause your anger or resentment.
Most anger and resentment are directly caused by…
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Core HurtsCore Hurts
Core HurtsCore HurtsDisregarded
Unimportant
Accused
Guilty
Devalued/disrespected
Rejected
Powerless
Inadequate, Unlovable
Disregarded
Unimportant
Accused
Guilty
Devalued/disrespected
Rejected
Powerless
Inadequate, Unlovable
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The Greater the Core Hurts…
The more Resentment & Anger.
Core HurtsCore Hurts
HEALSTM changes
into
But there’s one problem…
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So “stopping to think it through” usually won't work.
The brain processes anger in super fast time, 200 to 5,000 times faster than you can say, “I feel angry.”
An emotional regulator has to kick in automatically.
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Getting HEALSTM to work automatically, under stress, takes practice…
Like practicing a play in sports or learning to swim.
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In just a few weeks of practicing HEALSTM most people report that they feel more empowered and interested in life.
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They feel more confident and less irritable.
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They don’t even get angry in traffic.
Their relationships improve.
No one can “push their buttons.”
Vaccination: Each repetition makes you more immune to core hurts.
HEALSTM Works Like A:
Strengthening exercise: Like pushups, each repetition makes you stronger.
Skill to practice: Like shooting foul shots, each repetition makes you more skilled.
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