accelerated coaching

get there faster

educate v learn

coaching acts as a catalyst for transformation through

questioning and challenging the strategies, beliefs and choices a person

is making in all areas of their life.

• Where we are - present reality

• Where we want to be - desired state & goal

• Strategies to get there - tools & resources

• Transformation along the way - personal change

• Celebration of successes - energy of victory

• Where else do we want to be - new desired state & goal

accelerated coaching

state management1

be the state you want• Choose responsibility

• Be proactive

• Serve your client and their goal

• Consider - what would serve my client right now?

• Don’t buy into your clients limitations

• Behavioural flexibility controls the conversation

behavioural flexibility

leads the conversation

accountability2

If I let you offI let you down

being the accountability• We are REQUIRED to be the accountability that’s needed!

• Assist your client to SEE; HEAR; FEEL the results of their beliefs & behaviour

• The Map is NOT the Territory!

• Moving your client from EFFECT to CAUSE

• CURIOSITY is essential

• Do not accept your client’s LIMITATIONS

• Invite your client to see what information they are FILTERING out

accountability questions• How do you know it’s time to.... [avoid; procrastinate; do anger]

• What happens just before you.... [avoid; procrastinate; do anger]

• What are you tolerating by continuing to.... [avoid; procrastinate; do anger]

• In what way are these beliefs & behaviours serving you?

• If you choose not to create the change what will/what won’t happen?

• What is the most effective way to hold you accountable to this? What else?

• I’m curious to know what you would need from me to step it up a level our accountability?

chunking3

chunking• Limiting beliefs & Obstacle recognition - “What would most prevent you

from....”

• New strategies - “How could this be a gift to you?”

• Chunking - Organizing or breaking down some experience into bigger or smaller pieces.

• Chunking up involves moving to a larger, more abstract level of information.

• Chunking down involves moving to a more specific and concrete level of information.

• Chunking laterally involves finding other examples at the same level of information.

chunking questionsChunking Up

For what purpose....?What is the intention of....?

What is the positive intention of....?

Chunking AcrossWhat is another example of this?

Chunking DownWhat are examples of this?

What/How/When/Who specifically?

chunking creates movement• What if you did know? What else? What else? What else?

• Can you act “as if” you knew....

• If you were Coaching you what would you tell yourself?

• How is this a gift to you?

• What are the possibilities being presented right now?

• How can we turn this around?

• What’s one thing you could do that would make an immediate difference?

questions4

questions• Avoid these questions....

• Why/Why not?

• Did you...

• Can you....?

• Are you going to?

• Am I right?

• Utilise these questions

• I’m curious/wonder/acknowledge

• For what purpose....

• You are and so much more....

• If you could what would you do?

• If it was effortless?

possibility & focus questions• What if you knew....

• What would you do if you couldn’t fail?

• What outcome will that give you?

• How is that belief serving you?

• How’s that working for you?

• In what ways are you limiting yourself right now?

• How are you hiding/running/procrastinating right now?

• What would get you to move from here?

• What would need to get unstuck?

• If you could see 3 months down the track what would you choose?

necessity & kaizen questions• What must you do for this to be

different (not should)

• What must you start/stop/continue to move forward on this?

• What do you need to do?

• What is one thing/one more thing you could do?

• What is the next best step for you to take?

• How could you do/see this differently?

• If you were to stretch yourself right now what would that look like?

• Describe yourself when this is no longer a challenge to you?

• Is this something you would like to move on?

effortless transformation questions• How can we turn this around?

• What would be the easiest/most fun thing to do?

• What would motivate you to explore this?

• How can this be even more outstanding?

• What would you need to believe to make this possible/take the next step?

• How about we play full out and see where it takes us?

• Who do you need to be to move closer to the life you desire/

• What do you need to do differently to move close to your goal?

• How can I support you?

• How important is this to you?

3 coaching models that work

Tools that work• Rapport - building trust with your client

• Calibration - tuning into Client's state

• Match & Mirror - adopting body posture, gestures & mannerisms

• Physiology of excellence - using body posture to communicate

• Language & Voice - tone, speed, choice of words

• Beliefs & Experience - finding common ground a a starting point

The GROW Model• GOALS - What specifically would you like to explore? How will you know you

have achieved this goal? What evidence will there be?

• REALITY - What is happening right now? What, who, when & how often? What is the effect/result of that?

• OPTIONS - “What else could you do?” “What if this or that constraint were removed? “What are the benefits and downsides of each option?” “What factors will you use to weigh up the options?

• WAY FORWARD - “So what will you do now … and when? “What could stop you moving forward?” “And how will you overcome it?” “Will this address your goal?” “How likely is this option to succeed?” “What else will you do?”

The TRANSFORMATIONAL Model• Elicit Focus - Where would you like to focus this Coaching call?

• Ask - “How is that a problem for you right now?” “How else?” “How else?”

• Future Pace - Go to a time in the future where this isn’t a problem for you....what will you be seeing, hearing, feeling, what will make sense? What evidence will there be that there is a change in this for you? What will you be telling yourself?

• Establish a way forward - What beliefs do you need to give up? use Pain V Pleasure - what are you tolerating? What will you gain? Agreement Frame - Is this something you want to change right now? Are you sure? Absolutely?

• Who do you need to BE - describe a new way of BEING. Then First Steps - What three things can you DO right now to move towards this goal?

The PLEASURE v PAIN Model

• PAIN - What will happen if you don’t? What won’t happen if you don’t? What is the cost of not taking action? What are you tolerating by staying where you are? What is it about the situation that is holding you back? If you chose to do nothing what would be the result? How close to your goal is this belief getting you? How long will you stay at effect?

• PLEASURE - What are the benefits of moving ahead? What would happen if you felt the fear and did it anyway? Who will you be after this is no longer a problem? What will you attract into your life? Can you see/hear/fell the life you will be living after this old thing?

future pacing 5

what is future pacing?• Mentally rehearsing the future and accessing current skills & strengths

• Establishing new “ways of being” in the future, right now.

• You can show your client how to strengthen their resolve over a decision or confidence over a new skill

• You can identify potential obstacles and create confidence in overcoming

• You solidify the choices your client has made

• Help your client practice how to access their new resources

future pace questions• Go in your minds eye....see, hear, feel, listen to your self talk....

• One month/3 months/12 months into the future....

• See yourself with this new belief/these new skills/new....

• Notice what is going on, what has changed, what certainty, what confidence you have, its affect on others

• Go forward to a place where this obstacle/challenge might have otherwise been a problem....notice how effortlessly you move past that old thing

• Go even farther into the future and notice (see, hear, feel) the new direction, momentum, confidence with which you are living....bring to present!

accelerated coaching

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