www.tbanj.org Bulletin August 2015/5775

 A welcoming community of Jewish life, worship & learning 

Summer Services

Kabbalat Shabbat Fridays, 6:30 PM

outdoors on the Patio, weather permitting

Shabbat Morning Services Saturdays, 9:30 AM

Selichot Saturday, September 5

Erev Rosh HaShanah Sunday, September 13

Rosh HaShanah Monday, September 14

Second Day Rosh HaShanah Tuesday, September 15

Kol Nidre Tuesday, September 22

Yom Kippur (Yizkor) Wednesday, September 23

Service Schedule on page 4

High Holy Days 2015 5776

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As of July 23, 2015

MAZEL TOV

Cathy & Bruce Fischberg, engagement of daughter, Hallie to Michael Cohn

Debra & Ira Gordon, engagement of daughter, Julie to Jason Bleck

Barbara & Dan Kaplan, marriage of son, Jordan to Brooke Luxenberg

Alyce Miller, birth of grandson, Hudson Sanchez Hughley

Alyce Miller, grandson, Dovid Chaim Bub becoming a Bar Mitzvah

Linda & BJ Reisberg, birth of grandson, Samuel Eli Reisberg

Abby & Brian Drubetsky, birth of daughter, Hannah Flynn Drubetsky

Barbara & Scott Birnbaum, engagement of son Eric to Meredith Turtletaub

Lanie & Howard Apirian, birth of grandson Brayden Robert Chimenti

CONDOLENCES ON THE PASSING OF

Jeffrey Geffner mother, Myra Geffner

Maurice Ruberman, Temple Member

Elise Ruberman husband, Maurice Ruberman

Donna Shahrabani father, Maurice Ruberman

Lisa Bailly mother, Karen Baily

Faylene Kuperman, Temple Member

Jeanne Pasmantier son, John Pasmantier

NEW FAMILIES

Donna & Marc Ellenbogen, Spencer, Korey, Lyla, Tessa

LIFE CYCLE EVENTS

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TBA ANNUAL GIVING — PARTNERS IN LEADERSHIP 2015-2016

Isabella S. Fiske and Merle H. Kalishman, Co-Chairs: TBA Annual Giving—Partners in Leadership Committee Marvin Wertheimer, Chair, Development Committee

Thank you for being Partners in Leadership!

As of July 23, 2015

President’s Circle Joni & Alan Cohen Charles M. Greef & Shawn Lech Susan & Alan Hammer Sherry & Bob Lieb Julie & M. Steven Silbermann Trudy & Fred Slater Robin & Leigh Walters Torah Circle Randi & Marc Berson Bernice & Kenneth Garbade Sandi & Mark Rosenbaum Ethel & Bob Singer 1853 Society Nancy & Ken Bernstein Isabella & Josh Fiske Merle & Marty Kalishman Ellen & Barry Wagenberg Rabbi’s Circle Terry & Denis Bovin Susan & Bruce Greene Randi & Greg Jeddis Julie & Gregg Klein Ellen & Peter Klein Sondra & Lionel Levey Ellen & Richard Lincer Eileen & Marc Mellman Barbara & Michael Rosenbaum Linda & John Schupper Marjie & Scott Zucker

Mitzvah Circle Arlene & Richard Bookbinder Robin & Arthur Brody Ruth Dolinko Barbara Drench Jayne & Jim Jacoby Cindy & Shawn Klein Barbara & Warren Klein Robin & Jeff Kollin Jacqueline & Ira Kopito Risa & Steven Lieberman Alyce Sands Miller Ruth Ross Adrienne & Stan Schwartz Mara & David Silber Staci & Glen Weiss Marjie & Harvey Yonteff Circle of Friends Marion Berson Renee & Jeffrey Cohen Helen Farber Annette & Herb Feldman Marsha & Steven Fiske Rheda & Raymond Folkman Bonnie & Keith Gurland Hayley & Jonathan Hirschmann Madeline & Harold Hoffman Helen Kessler Arlene & Dan Kollin Jay & Jessica Kooper Esther Laufman JoAnn & Kerry LeBenger Wendy & Michael Lenchner Ilena & Paul Lieberman

Norma & Jerry Marsh Elena & Edward Meinhardt Vita Orenstein Cynthia Pfeffer Mindy & Greg Scheier Dorothy Scher Sherrie & Roger Schneider Luba & Mark Schonwetter Tricia & Chuck Seid Lynne Uiberall Bobbie & Carl Weisenfeld Diana & Michael Wische Naomi Zeitel    

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HIGH HOLY DAYS 5776

Selichot: Saturday, September 5 9:00 PM Service and Reception

Erev Rosh HaShanah: Sunday, September 13 8:00 PM Service in the Ross Sanctuary

First Day Rosh HaShanah: Monday, September 14 10:00 AM Service in the Ross Sanctuary 10:00 AM Young Family Service–Kindergarten through Second Grade in the Silberman Conservatory By Reservation Only 10:00 AM Family Service–Third and Fourth Grades in the Brody Youth Lounge By Reservation Only 12:00 PM Tot Service in the Brody Youth Lounge 1:00 PM Tashlich

Second Day Rosh HaShanah: Tuesday, September 15 10:00 AM Service in the Ross Sanctuary Child Care provided for 3 years through Second Grade By Reservation Only

Memorial Service at B’nai Abraham Memorial Park: Sunday, September 20, 12 noon

Erev Yom Kippur: Tuesday, September 22 7:30 PM Kol Nidre Service in the Ross Sanctuary

Yom Kippur: Wednesday, September 23 10:00 AM Service in the Ross Sanctuary 10:00 AM Young Family Service–Kindergarten through Second Grade in the Silberman Conservatory By Reservation Only 10:00 AM Family Service–Third and Fourth Grades in the Brody Youth Lounge By Reservation Only 12:00 PM Tot Service in the Brody Youth Lounge 1:00 PM Meditation period 3:30 PM Minchah 4:30 PM approx. Yizkor (followed by Neilah, Maariv, Havdalah)   

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HIGH HOLY DAYS 5776

TICKETS

Tickets will be mailed the week of September 1 to members in good standing. Please note: All children through age 29 will be issued tickets automatically and mailed with Membership tickets.

Good standing- Dues and Building Fund paid in full by August 31. Members with approved payment arrangements must be current with their schedule. Special arrangements may be made in confidence by calling Gail Milchman, Executive Director at the Temple office, 973-994-2290, ext 215.

Guest Tickets: are available for relatives for a donation of $136 per ticket for all High Holy Day services and will be mailed with membership tickets. If you require guest tickets*, please call the temple office or order online @ www.tbanj.org by August 25, 2015. *Should your relative be a member in good standing of a synagogue, please contact the office for details regarding complimentary tickets.

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YIZKOR BOOK One of our many traditions is to publish, in conjunction with our Yom Kippur Yizkor Service, a booklet honoring the memory of our deceased loved ones. Names in the booklet are not automatically carried forward from year to year. To place the names of your loved ones in the 2015 edition, please call the temple office no later than August 25 or submit your listing online @ www.tbanj.org.

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HANDICAPPED DRIVERS Handicapped parking is for handicapped drivers only. Pre-registration is required. Please contact the temple office at tbainfo@tbanj.org or

call 973-994-2290. All cars must display a state issued handicapped permit. Reserved handicapped parking spaces will be released by 10:30 AM.

Professional traffic directors have been engaged to expedite parking. Please follow their directions for your safety. ______________________________________________________

HEARING IMPAIRED: The Ross Sanctuary is equipped with an audio-assist system. Equipment is limited - contact the Temple Office to reserve a head set at 973-994-2290 or tbainfo@tbanj.org.

SEATING: Some seats in the Ross Sanctuary are reserved as part of Temple building and capital fund efforts. All other seats are available on a non-reserved basis.

Handicapped Seating Please contact the temple office to reserve a seat.

SENIOR TRANSPORTATION Should you require transportation to our High Holy Day Services, please contact the temple office 973-994-2290 or tbainfo@tbanj.org.

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TBA Book Group with Rabbi Kulwin Fall 2015: New York Times Best Sellers: The books could not be more different in subject, but each was a best seller for many weeks. Blume and Doerr are authors of note, and both possess that rare ability to move and provoke while ensuring a reading experience of genuine pleasure.

Thursday, September 3, 2015, 7:30 PM In the Unlikely Event by Judy Blume

Elizabeth, New Jersey. 1952. In a matter of weeks, three airliners fall from the skies onto young Judy Blume’s home town. With those events as backdrop, the unparalleled storyteller weaves together generations of families affected by those tragedies, simultaneously painting a remarkable picture of a particular time and place.

Thursday, October 1, 7:30 PM

All The Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr Two stories converge. The first, of Marie-Laure, blind from age six, who flees with her father from Nazi-occupied Paris. The second, of Werner, a German orphan who becomes a hero in the Hitler Youth. Doerr uncovers good and kindness in most unexpected ways. A National Book Award finalist.

Parashat HaShavuah with Rabbi Kulwin Begin Regular Schedule of Parashat HaShavuah, Saturday August 29, at 9:00 AM (Services at 10:00 AM)

Rosh Hodesh with Rabbi Dantowitz The new month, or Rosh Hodesh, has evolved into a women’s holiday. TBA’s Sister-hood joins together a few times a year to welcome the new month with conversation, learning, spiritual growth, and connection. Join us to welcome the months of Kislev, Sh’vat, Adar II and Iyar in the year 5776, Thursdays, November 12, Wednesday, January 6, Thursday, March 10 and Tuesday, May 10, at 7:30 PM

CONGREGATIONAL LEARNING

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CONGREGATIONAL LEARNING

Piano Concerts: Jews and the Piano…A Year of Celebration

A list of world-renowned Jewish pianists might begin with just Vladimir Horowitz and Arthur Rubinstein but would quickly reach into the hundreds. As an exami-nation of concert programs from the world’s great concert halls would show, the history of piano virtuosity cannot be separated from Jewish history, so signifi-cant and influential have Jewish pianists been. This year we celebrate this relationship with concerts by three great Jewish pianists, each from a different country: Arnaldo Cohen from Brazil, Joseph Kalichstein from Israel, and Vladimir Feltsman from Russia. They will play ma-jor works from throughout the classical piano repertoire, representing the breadth of Jewish pianistic accomplishment. Admission fees: Members and students: $18 Non-members: $25 This series is underwritten by the Ann & Milton Colman/Samuel A. Cohen Fund. Save the dates: Arnaldo Cohen Saturday, October 17, 7:30 PM Joseph Kalichstein Sunday, November 22, 3:00 PM Vladimir Feltsman Sunday, March 20, 3:00 PM

Lunch and Learn with Karen Frank, TBA Congregational Nurse – The Science of Aging What does medicine and science teach us about our aging process? How can we best work with what we know to make the most of our health and vitality? How does attitude impact on our physical self? Gather over lunch with Karen Frank, Congregational Nurse, to discuss this very pertinent topic. Thursdays, October 1, October 15 and October 29, 11:30 AM Monthly Lunch and Learn with Rabbi Faith Joy Dantowitz: The Book of Judges ─ Please Save Me (or Sin, Punishment and Rescue. Repeat) In this monthly class, we will learn about the Judges who tried and failed to lead the people at this critical time in the history of the Jewish nation. As we explore their leadership strengths and weaknesses, we will also shed light on the book’s meaning for us today. Thursdays, October 22, November 19, December 17, January 14, February 11, March 10, April 14 and May 19, 11:30 AM

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Keep Calm and BBQ On…. Annual TBA Summer BBQ… A Great Success!

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TBA SPRING MISSION TO EASTERN EUROPE: IN THE SHADOW OF THE HOLOCAUST

In the Shadow of the Holocaust April 24-May 3, 2016 As chairs of this special trip, we invite you to join us and Rabbi and Robin Kulwin next spring when Temple B'nai Abraham journeys to Eastern Europe to learn about both history and the present day. We will visit important and tragic landmarks, including Auschwitz, to help us understand just what happened. Our visit turns personal in Berlin where, on the last day of Passover, we will recite Yizkor in the synagogue where Rabbi Joachim Prinz served. Shortly we will send details on the exceptionally rich and mean-ingful itinerary, but save the dates now! Details coming soon! April 24 Depart Newark April 25-27 Krakow April 27-30 Berlin April 30-May 2 Prague May 3 Depart Prague B'shalom, Jay and Leslie Mayesh Steven and Ronnie Rosen  

 

 

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All listings as of July 23, 2015 ONE FAMILY FUND In memory of Sylvia Wagenberg Leslie & Jay Mayesh In honor of the marriage of Jordan Kaplan and Brooke Luxenberg The Geffner Family Janet, Jason & Adam Gelman In honor of Carly Taylor’s graduation from Livingston High School The Numark Family In memory of Myra Geffner Marjorie & Stephen Fiverson

Robin & Jeff Kollin Nancy & Richard Dinar Stacy & David Chaikin Rori & Bobby Denholtz

In honor of Sammy Kalishman, grandson of Merle & Marty Kalishman becoming a Bar Mitzvah In honor of the engagement of Matthew Silbermann to Amanda Miller Renee & Jeff Cohen Bonnie & Ted Shapiro In honor of Jason Fiske, grandson of Marsha & Steven Fiske, becoming a Bar Mitzvah In honor of Jason Fiske, grandson of Luba & Mark Schonwetter, becoming a Bar Mitzvah Nancy & Richard Dinar In memory of Maurice Ruberman, husband of Elise Ruberman, father of Donna Shahrabani & Beth Pechman Gary & Michelle Garnet & Family The Darrow Family Larry Rein Diane & Ira Starr Barbara Blumenfeld Helen Farber Rina & Ron Meyers Sheila & Milt Fischgrund Penny & Gregg Blender The Wald Family Elaine Berman Gerald & Marlene Tuch

Barry H. Evenchick Margie & Harvey Yonteff Avis & Bob Garnet Renee & Ed Rosenthal Florence Schatten Elaine Pincus Lollie & Alex Pechman Harriet & Jerry Ritzer & Erica & Steve Kapiloff Carole & Richard Chopin Carrie & Richard Key Michele Bell Neil, Jennifer & Leah Weinstock In honor of Carson Shahrabani becoming a Bar Mitzvah In honor of Becca Smith, granddaughter of Arlene & Dan Kollin becoming a Bar Mitzvah In honor of the birth of Savannah Harvi Zeitel, granddaughter of Naomi Zeitel Bobby & Joel Pearlberg In honor of the birth of Samuel Eli Reisberg, grandson of Linda & BJ Reisberg Julie & Max Silbermann In memory of John, son of Jeanne Pasmantier Helen Farber Geri & Milt Schaeffer In honor of the engagement of Matthew Silbermann to Amanda Miller Bonnie & Ted Shapiro CLERGY DISCRETIONARY FUND In honor of Bunny and Arthur Shankman’s 45 wedding anniversary Louann & Irv Brothman In honor of their daughter Brooke’s marriage to Jordan Kaplan Jill and Scott Luxenberg In honor of their son Jordan’s marriage to Brooke Luxenberg Barbara & Dan Kaplan

To the Fund Howard Ehrenkranz Ellen & Peter Klein In honor of Rabbi & Robin Kulwin’s son Noah’s graduation from UC Berkeley Renee & Jeffrey Cohen In honor of Leslie & Jay Mayesh’s grandson Davis becoming a Bar Mitzvah Adrienne & Stan Schwartz In memory of her husband Maurice and in honor of Rabbi Kulwin, Rabbi Dantowitz & Karen Frank for all their support Elise Ruberman In honor of their daughter Kate and Zachary’s marriage, with thanks to Rabbi Kulwin Robin & Richard Levine In memory of her husband Jack Helen Kessler BARRY FRIEDMAN CREATIVE SERVICE FUND DONOR In honor of Mia Sutton, granddaughter of Marilyn & Ike Sutton, becoming a Bat Mitzvah Betty & Barry Ende GIFT *In honor of Sammy Kalishman, grandson of Merle & Marty Kalishman, becoming a Bar Mitzvah Rochelle Cohen *Rae & Harold Hurwitz Fund

GENEROUS GIFTS FROM THOUGHTFUL PEOPLE

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GENEROUS GIFTS FROM THOUGHTFUL PEOPLE

CARING CONNECTIONS In memory of Sylvia Wagenberg, mother of Barry Wagenberg Ila & Jan Press In memory of Morrey Ruberman Marianne & Bernard Tulman SHEILA GROSSMAN EARLY SCHOOL FUND In honor of the birth of Hudson Sanchez Hughley, grandson of Alyce Miller In honor of Dovid Chaim Bub, grandson of Alyce Miller, be-coming a Bar Mitzvah Ruth Ross THE FREDERICK W. KAMIS EARLY SCHOOL SCHOLARSHIP FUND In memory of Frederick W. Kamis The Dichter Family In memory of Sonia Silbermehl, mother of Roberta Ende Betty & Barry Ende

ELLEN & PETER KLEIN GARDEN FLOWER FUND In memory of Myra Geffner, mother of Stephen Geffner Pat & Burt Sebold In honor of Mia Sutton becoming a Bat Mitzvah In memory of Maurice Ruberman, husband, father & grandfather of Elise Ruberman & Family In honor of the birth of Samu-el Eli Reisberg, grandson of Linnie & BJ Reisberg In honor of the engagement of Eric Birnbaum and Meredith Turtletaub Ellen & Peter Klein

In honor of the engagement of Eric Birnbaum and Meredith Turtletaub Tina Greenberg THE PETER & ELLEN KLEIN TORAH CARE ENDOWMENT FUND In honor of the engagement of Matthew Silbermann and Amanda Miller Joni & Alan Cohen ALBERT MEINHARDT FUND FOR LEARNING In memory of Maurince Ruberman, husband of Elise Ruberman Evi Meinhardt ORLOVSKY/REICHEL SEN-IOR SERVICES FUND In memory of Morrey Ruberman Paula & Mal Fleischer PRIME TIME In honor of Becca Smith, granddaughter of Arlene & Dan Kollin, becoming a Bat Mitzvah In honor of Olivia Nengel, granddaughter of Ruth Ross, becoming a Bat Mitzvah Ethel & Bob Singer

ROBERT L. ROCKER MEMORIAL FUND In honor of Brett Schwartz, grandson of Phyllis & Allan Weingarten, becoming a Bar Mitzvah In honor of the graduation of Mickey Fried from the University of Miami and the graduation of Ilana Fried from NYU with a Masters in Public Administration In memory of Sylvia Wagenberg, mother of Barry Wagenberg Merle & Marty Kalishman

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GENEROUS GIFTS FROM THOUGHTFUL PEOPLE

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TEMPLE SPONSOR 

TEMPLE SPONSOR 

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300 East Northfield Road, Livingston, New Jersey 07039 mailing address: PO Box 46, Livingston, NJ 07039 www.tbanj.org

Temple 973.994.2290 Fax: 973.994.1838 The Early School 973.994.7016 Fax: 973.994.7999 Jewish Learning 973.994.3950 Fax: 973.994.7999 Program (K-12)

August 2015 The Temple B’nai Abraham Bulletin is published monthly.

Online at www.tbanj.org

Julie A. Silbermann, President

Saul Berkowitz, Vice President Randi Jeddis, Vice President Jeffrey Klein, Vice President Scott Loventhal, Vice President Jeffrey Kollin, Treasurer Stacey Rosenberg, Secretary Carey Gertler, Asst. Treasurer Ken Starr, Asst. Secretary Edward Meinhardt, Immediate Past President Herb Ford, Counsel

Clifford M. Kulwin, Rabbi Faith Joy Dantowitz, Rabbi

Jessica Epstein , Cantor Lee Coppersmith, Cantor Emeritus Gail Milchman, Executive Director

Debbie Aronson Ziering, Director of Early Childhood Education Melissa G. Weiner, Director of Jewish Learning

Janet Resnick, Religious School Director Emeritus

Barbara Birnbaum & Ruth Ross, Marketing & Communications Co-Chairs Tina Greenberg, Communications Coordinator

AUGUST 2015 SERVICES

Friday, July 31 6:30 PM Summer Kabbalat Shabbat Service, outdoors on the patio, weather permitting Saturday, August 1 8:30 AM Summer Schedule of Parashat HaShavuah: Va’etchanan 9:30 AM Summer Shabbat Morning Services Friday, August 7 6:30 PM Summer Kabbalat Shabbat Services, outdoors on the patio, weather permitting. The musical service, led by TBA member David Wien, will focus on a spiritual entry to Shabbat. Saturday, August 8 8:30 AM Summer Schedule of Parashat HaShavuah: Ekev 9:30 AM Summer Shabbat Morning Services. TBA member David Wien will lead services. Friday, August 14 6:30 PM Summer Kabbalat Shabbat Services, outdoors on the patio, weather permitting

Saturday, August 15 8:30 AM Summer Schedule of Parashat HaShavuah: Re’eh 9:30 AM Summer Shabbat Morning Services Friday, August 21 6:30 PM Summer Kabbalat Shabbat Services, outdoors on the patio, weather permitting Saturday, August 22 8:30 AM Summer Schedule of Parashat HaShavuah: Shoftim 9:30 AM Summer Shabbat Morning Services Friday, August 28 6:30 PM Kabbalat Shabbat Services Saturday, August 29 9:00 AM Begin Regular Schedule of Parashat HaShavuah: Ki Tetze 10:00 AM Begin Regular Schedule of Shabbat Morning Services Jack Nydick son of Beth & Andrew Nydick will be called to the Torah as a Bar Mitzvah. Lauren Rakow daughter of Judy and Adam Rogoff and Martin Rakow will be called to the Torah as a Bat Mitzvah.