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Understanding Mentee NeedsValuing the Individual & Sharing the Experience
Good Mentoring
Respects the uniqueness of the mentee
Focuses on the positive results
Allows mentees to “Do it their way.”
Takes into consideration mentee needs
Mentee Needs
Adapting to change
Fostering positive self-image
Managing change
Dealing with gray areas
Adapting to Change
During the mentoring process the mentee is asked to consider changes through receiving a challenging opportunity or through a personal insight
Change can bring on a (1) sense of loss over beliefs, behaviors, relationships, (2) fear of the unknown, (3) fear of failure, (4) anxiety of success and resulting expectations
Mentors Challenge: Recognize the needs of a person adapting to change
Fostering a Positive Self-Image
Focusing on deficiencies makes it difficult to be motivated or make positive change
Mentors Challenge: Provide confidence building feedback DO Give mentees a chance to vent Provide ideas when appropriate or asked, refer as needed DON’T Provide advice for which you are not qualified Be directive trying to solve mentee problems
Managing Change Successfully
A clear vision of the mentee’s situation after the change (context shifting)
Time to absorb the new vision and adjust behaviors
Developing productive coping mechanisms and adjustment strategies for stress of change
Time to consider the change and to own the change
Mentors Challenge: Supporting visioning process, displaying patience and modeling adjustment techniques
Dealing with Gray Areas
There is not always a road map when helping someone grow and develop as a person
Mentee changes may not be dramatic Notice small or gradual changes Read verbal and nonverbal cues
Acknowledging clues may bring change to surface
Mentors Challenge: Look for small signs of change and don’t get discouraged
Common Pitfalls
Criticizing Instead: Find constructive neutral alternatives
Giving advice Instead: Listen, feedback emotions/use empathy Instead: Assist with the problem solving process by
sharing, modeling and teaching
Rescuing people Instead: Assist people in understanding their
situation and with generating solutions
Examples
Statement: “I’m worried about our group project. I don’t want to get an “F” if
other people don’t do their part.”
Feeling Scared, maybe angry and anxious.
Typical Intervention “Don’t worry. This happens every year and it always works out
just fine.”
Effective Response “You seem very concerned about the consequences. Let’s talk
about it. I want to hear exactly what is troubling you.”
Practice
Work together in pairs to work through the following scenarios. Report out to the group.
Scenarios
Feeling, Typical Intervention, Effective Response “I think volunteering is a waste of time. It isn’t doing
me any good and I don’t want to do it.” “I am so overwhelmed with all the need in the
world, I know I will not be able to make a difference.”
“I don’t know how to write about my experience, I am such a failure at everything.”
“People just don’t understand me. I try to get my point across, but I am always ignored.”
It’s a Partnership
Although you may be the perceived “expert” the mentoring relationship should not be a hierarchy, i.e. junior/senior or top-down
Information is shared rather than given
Expectations should be discussed for both parties
You will get a lot from the mentoring process
References
Shea, G. (2002), How to Develop a Successful Mentor Behaviors. California: Crisp Learning.